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You guys have already heard me sing the praises of my friend and photog Suma Jane Dark and the life-giving powers of sexy shoots just for shits. With this next installment of “That Boudoir Life,” I will also let you in on the best kept secret in plus-size apparel that is Curvy Girl Lingerie.

Plus size boudoir shoot by Suma Jane Dark

“Sexy is not a size.” These are the words around which Chrystal Bougon has built her business, which includes both a brick and mortar boutique in San Jose, Calif. and online store at shop.curvygirlinc.com. I’ve shopped at Curvy Girl many times for the perfect anniversary or rando hey remember how hot I am piece of naughtiness. They were even sweet enough to name this badass plus-size teddy after me!

Plus size boudoir shoot by Suma Jane Dark

Blue lace plus size teddy

My least favorite parts of shopping for lingerie is not being able to 100% rely on fit when buying online and definitely NOT wanting to talk to a real person face to face because yes, I can post pictures like this but I am still awkward AF when it comes to having a conversation about my underwear. Luckily, the friendly people at Curvy Girl are always there to take your call and answer any questions you have about a product. They also have a very useful sizing page that gives you size recommendations for each brand!

Plus size boudoir shoot by Suma Jane Dark

Fishnet + Fat = WERQ

Hot pink fishnet plus size lingerie

Plus size boudoir shoot by Suma Jane Dark

Don’t ask me why I decided to go so punk rock in this last shoot. Sometimes my teenage rebellion just pops the fuck up for no good reason and I always have something studded or spiked ready to reflect it. Also, when I saw this on the rack, I knew I had boots to match and couldn’t resist.

Plus size boudoir shoot by Suma Jane Dark

Plus size boudoir shoot by Suma Jane Dark

All photos by Suma Jane Dark. Makeup by Hayley Atherton.

Shopping Linkies:

Blue Lace Teddy | Curvy Girl Lingerie (similar here)
Hot pink fishnet dress | Curvy Girl Lingerie

I’m going to do that thing again where I pull from the massive trash pile of useless pop-culture knowledge that makes up maybe 72% of my brain to set the scene of this next piece but, you remember that episode of Roseanne when she does a boudoir shoot for Valentine’s day? That was always how I thought it would go down with a real photographer, in some Sears-portrait-studio type setting only with a rickety day bed as the only prop and enough cheese-cloth filter to make me look like a stripper’s ghost.

But the right photographer, my friends, she can make literal magic happen. And she can make it happen on your butt.

Plus size boudoir shoot by Suma Jane Dark

After this picture, I accused my photog and good friend Suma Jane Dark of hiding an ass double in the closet and drugging me so I wouldn’t remember the ol’ switcheroo. But napes. That is indeed my culo. And as much as I couldn’t wait to show it to my husband, this really wasn’t the motivation behind doing a boudoir shoot. Some people have a hard time wrapping their heads around that one. Why do something like this if not for your sexual partner? I’m happy to break it down for you, then urge you to find a good photog and practice your booty toot. Boudoir is life-giving for these reasons:

Plus size teddy

1. It’s a Bold Move

I’ve never been bungee jumping but I might someday. This is NOT AT ALL because I think it will really be fun or enjoyable. But I might do it because it’s one of those things I can say I had the balls to do and pat myself on the back for it in times I feel meek and scared. I do scary shit often for this very reason. It’s an investment in my empowerment among other things. Boudoir is also kind of like that. However, I’ve never heard of anyone dying from it so, bonus.

Plus size teddy

Plus size boudoir shoot by Suma Jane Dark

2. Wow Moments

Remember my reaction to my own butt? A skilled photographer knows your angles seconds after meeting you and knows how to direct you. It’s not about flattering or concealing. It’s about how the right light can make your skin look flawless and the right pose can release all your sexual magnetism all at once like a goddamn tsunami. Your shoot will allow you to see yourself like never before and bow to your own femme powers of attraction. You bask in that black magik! Bask!

Plus size teddy

3. Lingerie Love

Plus size lingerie

Listen, some of us just really REALLY like lingerie and if it weren’t for the patriarchy, we would wear it to work, at the grocery store, walking the fucking dog, everywhere. I realize, if it weren’t for the patriarchy we wouldn’t HAVE lingerie and the male gaze affects all femmes buuuuut here we are and we can’t even enjoy it? Here, take this oppressive, uncomfortable thing but don’t enjoy it, no stop that!

Fuck all that.

I got a taste of the frilly shit for better or worse and I want to rock it. It’s that simple.

Plus size lingerie

4. Why So Serious?

Plus size lingerie

Without fail, every damn time my husband asks me to make a sexy face, I give him some cartoon-ass shit with a finger in my mouth while making some god-awful ehhhhhh noise. He recently discovered its best to ask me to make the face I make while eating stale Oreos. Being sexy on command is hard and feels stupid! Any good photog knows this and makes the event actually, for realsies fun. It also helps when you have a good friend come with you, just to flash you her boobs in the name of a good candid laugh shot. True story. Thanks again, Laurel. <3

5. Hai Sexuality Hey

Plus size boudoir shoot by Suma Jane Dark

I’m a working mom. I am always thigh-deep in a to-do list. Making time for intimacy with my husband is a must but it doesn’t always guarantee that I will at all feel like a sexual being for that two-hour window during nap time.¬†Getting reacquainted with my own sexuality on my time without my partner is unbelievably refreshing. Boudoir does this, maybe not during the process so much but definitely in the aftermath. Seeing yourself in this light can be an awakening. I still have it going on. My partner is lucky as shit. When is nap time?

All photos by Suma Jane Dark.