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Here’s why I love plus size maxi dresses–they are easy, they are easy, and they are EASY. Everyone always has something to say when you where one and you get to giggle in secret while you think about throwing it over your head and running the fuck out the door.

But more than that, they are versatile when done right. They have the flow to keep you cool in the summer and the coverage to protect you from fall chills, with plenty of ways to layer and style them into new looks. Here are a few gems I picked out with simple yet stylish cuts in colors that can easily take you into the colder months.

Summer Floral Maxi

Summer Floral Maxi - Ivory

How perfect would this look with a denim or leather jacket? Or even my new obsession–denim bombers?

Printed Full Sleeve Maxi Dress

Printed Full Sleeve Maxi Dress

This one I love because the floral isn’t too vibrant and more muted for fall. Plus, it will look amazing with a sleeveless trench.

Isla Floral Print Maxi Dress

Plus Isla Floral Print Maxi Dress

This red poppy color is a great shade for fall. I’d love to see it edged up with a black biker jacket.

Helen Floral Off The Shoulder Maxi Dress

Plus Helen Floral Off The Shoulder Maxi Dress

Even your off-shoulder dresses can be layered for dropping temps. This dark floral would pair perfectly under a chunky, cropped sweater.

Frankie Stripe Tie Front Maxi Dress

"Plus Frankie Stripe Tie Front Maxi Dress "

A simple cardigan is all you need for this pinstriped perfection.

Orla Striped Column Maxi Dress

Plus Orla Striped Column Maxi Dress

What can I say? I’m kinda living for stripes. They are very transitional, after all. Fall calls for more geometric prints and flirty summer stripes definitely qualify. This piece would look fantastic with a bomber to keep the look sporty-chic.

ZANZEA Polka Dot Maxi Dress

ZANZEA Women Polka Dot Strapless Boho Spaghetti Long Maxi Beach Party Dress

Pockets alert! This is another great piece for a denim jacket and booties.

Verdusa Color Block Maxi Dress

Verdusa Women's Summer Color Block Half Sleeve Split Casual Loose Shift Maxi Dress

How amazing is this color combo? But how about that slouchy cut, tho? Love.

Junarose Plus Size Tie Dye Maxi Dress

"Junarose Women's Plus Size Sleeveless Tie Dye Maxi Dress "

Fact: the only acceptable tie-dye shade is black and white. Fight me.

Annabelle Racerback Maxi Dress

Annabelle Women's Casual Racerback Tank Top Sleeveless Long Maxi Dresses

Blush is a color that transcends seasons. Get you some blush.

Boho Me Maxi Dress

Boho Me Maxi Dress

I do love the dark lavender of this dress but it comes in even more colors!

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Shopping for bottoms has been my jam lately for one very important reason: I’m expecting…to keep the extra inches I have gained around my middle for a while as I shed more and more toxic dieting behaviors.

Let me explain! I took an online course called Dare Not to Diet, which is amazing. It made me realize my ED recovery had become very dietesque and suffocating and crazy-making. So as I shed all my food “rules” that once kept me safe but now make me insane, my body is changing in response. And while most of my clothes still fit, tight jeans can be triggering and looser pants are definitely more gentle mentally right now. Also, they are insanely cloot.

plus size palazzo pants

plus size west coast bathing suit

If you’re not wearing your bathing suits as bodysuits rn, you are not getting your money’s worth. In fact, I have yet to wear this one for its intended purpose but I will because LOOK AT THE BACK OMG

plus size west coast bathing suit

Slitted pants are the thing right now and I am so happy to be on this train. This pair reminds me of the movie Angus in the most affectionate way:

plus size side slit pants

I just noticed how “knotty” this look is. Top knot, tee knot, waist knot. I did not plan this. Magic just happens.

I'm not a blogger tee

OK this last one is my favorite:

Plus size wide leg pants

It’s not often I get to rock the collared shirt and statement necklace look but it is one of my top 10 styles.

Plus size wide leg pants

It was also a great opportunity to strap on my super nostalgic platform sandals. Yes, they are lighter than Cool Whip.

platform sandals

Oh and who dis bb?

Plus size wide leg pants

plus size fashion

It’s my ket, Divvy. She does really go with the rust pants.

Shopping Linkies:

West Coast swimsuit | Forever 21
Not a blogger tee | Forever 21
Side slit tie pants | Eloquii
Chambray top | Poshmark (Join now and get $5 to spend on any item! Use code GOCLP)
Platform sandals (only available in black) | Rocket Dog

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I have to preface this post by saying nothing will ever replace crop tops in my heart. Nothing. Feeling myself hard enough to wear a crop top was a life-changing experience. I understand how trivial that sounds but imagine if you were my fupa and you spent your entire life in hiding and one day, a magical piece of clothing set you free. So, yeah. Just let that simmer for a while.

Even though crop tops were my number one middle finger to fatphobic fashion, mesh tops are really rising to the top of my list. But how about a mesh top you can tie into a knotted crop? Mind blown.

Nothing to wear plus size mesh top

Nothing to wear plus size mesh topIt was Mother’s Day and I was having a MOMENT with this concha. Not only was it the best I have had since I was a kid, it fucking matched my lipstick. I need to work with food props more often.

Nothing to wear plus size mesh top

“Corazooooooooooooon.”

Nothing to wear plus size mesh top

Pink concha

Sure fine I gave you life but I can see that’s not enough so here take my delicious concha. Grumble.

I actually blame the serendipitous concha/lipstick matching to my recent pinktastic episodes in which I just pile on the blush and bashful to an obscene degree like right about now…

Floral mesh plus size bodysuit

Yep. Those are fuzzy pink sandals. And pink velvet.

Floral mesh plus size bodysuit

And my hair is a wee bit pink.

Floral mesh plus size bodysuit

And it’s imperative that I talk about this bralette I am wearing–my first purchase from Rue 21. While I love bralettes and have learned to embrace my natural breast shape in return for ditching fucking underwires, this magical thing told me I could have it all. It has structure AND comfort. It is Christmas.

So do you guys remember those Magic Slate things where you can draw or write on neon pink plastic that clings to a white board underneath? This top makes me feel like a human version of that.

Neon orange plus size mesh top

Neon orange plus size mesh top

Neon orange plus size mesh top

No need to stop, drop, and roll. I am not really on fire.

Neon orange plus size mesh top

Neon orange plus size mesh top

Neon orange plus size mesh topMirror nails and glitter eyes. My middle name is toofuckingmuchomgstop. I scare myself sometimes.

Neon orange plus size mesh top

See?

Shopping Linkies:

Nothing to wear top | Forever 21 (Get 2% Cash Back at Ebates! Join here.)
Floral mesh bodysuit | Forever 21
Velvet pants | Rue 107
Lace bralette | Rue 21
Faux fur sandals | Amazon
Neon mesh top | ASOS (Get 5% Cash Back at Ebates! Join here.)

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Do you remember the first time you tried to take back the word “fat”? Mine was in junior high. I figured because everybody already treated me differently, they obviously knew I was fat (DAMN IT, BUT HOW?!) and I probably looked foolish trying to pretend I wasn’t. I figured it was a way to save face. But suddenly I was depressed and insecure and cause for so much misguided sympathy from my friends, who begged me not to “talk shit” about myself.

Sigh. This is how I thought it would always be. For one, I was also fatphobic as fuck and wouldn’t be caught dead paling around with another fat girl for fear of being a collectively bigger target. That meant there was no possible way I could have learned how wrong I was back then, in my thin bubble. I wasn’t a good ally. I had no good allies. I didn’t know it could be any other way.

Girl Gang mesh t-shirt

It me. Gang of one.

Girl Gang mesh t-shirt

Taking back “fat” is still hard. People still don’t understand it. They take it as admitting defeat. As a resignation. But that only works if you think my body is a failure, which I fucking don’t. I am free in this body. I am reminded just how free by watching other fat babes live their lives unapologetically and by gathering with them to take up some well-deserved space.

Girl Gang mesh t-shirt

Girl Gang mesh t-shirtThat’s what #fatandfree means to me. Plus Model, goddess, mermaid, HBIC, Supermom Saucye West started the hashtag on Instagram and rounded up around 30 plus-size princesses for a photoshoot with bopo photographer Suma Jane Dark. I’m warning you right now, things are about to get legit too magical up in this piece.

#fatandfree plus model Saucey West

Clockwise from top left: Plus Model Saucye West, Me, Club Bodice‘s Shawna Berry Davis, The Just Chamia Show‘s Chamia LaRae, Yoga Teacher Victoria Russell

#fatandfree plus model Saucye West

Black leather cropped jacket

Black leather cropped jacket

Having community with fellow fat women can still be a scary thing, particularly in public. If you have it relatively easy like I do in terms of being the victim of fat phobia, nothing will remind you that people want us to disappear like strutting your stuff in a fat pack. People react. It’s here, it’s real, and we still have work to do. But this day, this was a safe space. This was a celebration. I mean, any chance to take my top off is always a celebration but, you know.

Brace yourself for the moment that gave me the most life:

#fatandfree plus model Saucye West

From left to right: Chamia LaRae, Saucye West, The Body is Not an Apology‘s Denise Jolly

This was right before they started twerking. *fans self*

Torrid extra short acid wash jeans

Torrid extra short acid wash jeans

This is why every fat woman needs a fat squad, a topic on which I will be writing more in depth for Ravishly later this month. We can’t have liberation alone. Another reason–NO ONE laughs like fat women. Fight me.

Torrid extra short acid wash jeans

Special, SPECIAL shouts to Laurel Dickman who was instrumental in putting this all together. <3

Protect those corneas, kids. I’m about to light this bitch up. Seriously, I feel like from the top up, I could easily be mistaken for an extra in the movie Hackers. Goddamn I love the 90s. Remember when Clinton played his sax on Arsenio? Good times.

Rue107 neon plus size bikini

But I digress. Here, in 2017, I’m now on family vacay in beautiful Pismo Beach with my monkey, my lil’ bear, my sister and her flock, even my mom, stepdad and grandpa. Feeling myself in the midst of all this domestic chaos was a challenge. But I packed accordingly. And if I bring day-glo on vacay, it means I’m not fucking around. This is MY me time. Damnit.

Rue107 neon plus size bikini

Did I slay you? Here’s a lifesaver. But wait…what’s this? A failed attempt to get my son a floatie for the pool (this one was wayyyyyy too big) resulting in some prop pics? Don’t mind if I do!

Rue107 neon plus size bikini

Sometimes, if you are fabulously vain and materialistic, you just can’t. fucking. even. with yourself. Like the slay is so strong you just gotta take a knee for a sec. Catch your breath. This was one of those times. Like who even is thissssssssss. Tell me.

Rue107 neon plus size bikini

It me. Floating into your IG.

Rue107 neon plus size bikini

This pool shoot was something I never even knew I had on my bucket list. When I went to the Golden Confidence pool party last year, I got some great shots but the duck…I love this duck. And now I am just realizing why I have been wearing all black since getting home from vacation. I clearly blew a color fuse. But now for something a touch more muted…

Plus size cactus print bodysuit

Remember when I hated overalls? People grow, OK. Also, they HAVE gotten cuter. Fight me right now if you think they’ve always been this lit. They have not.

Plus size cactus print bodysuit

My bodysuit obsession is still going strong. But my choker obsession is the new monster taking all my money, four bucks at a time.

Plus size denim overalls

Why even did we used to do this back in the day? I mean…why did YOU because they didn’t make overalls my size back in the day. At least not ones I could find anywhere but the army surplus. Those Ben Davis tents. Gangster.

Plus size denim overalls

Just contemplating my next painting. J/K my only talent is shopping.

Plus size cactus print bodysuit

Back to reality. It’s been real, central coast.

Shopping Linkies:

Neon bikini | Rue 107 (sold out!)
Pink pom pom choker | Forever 21 (Get 2% Cash Back at Ebates! Join here.)
Kat Von D Plan 9 lipstick | Sephora (Get 4% Cash Back at Ebates! Join here.)

Cactus bodysuit | Forever 21 (Get 2% Cash Back at Ebates! Join here.)
Denim overalls | Forever 21 (Get 2% Cash Back at Ebates! Join here.)
Clear lucite choker | Forever 21 (Get 2% Cash Back at Ebates! Join here.)

If you follow my personal Facebook page, you got an eye- and ear-full of the spastic joy I experienced getting these goddamn shoes in the mail. First, I know I am late but I had no idea alllllll the sick Vans were on Opening Ceremony. Like I’m a little upset no one told me and that I just assumed the best Vans were on Vans.com LIKE AN IDIOT.
Opening Ceremony blue glitter Vans

You also caught a glimpse into my thought process around constructing outfits. Indeed, there is a method to the madness. And my madness screamed EXTRAPOLATE ON THE GLITTER BETCH. So I went with this silver glitter dress that I cut into a crop. Then my madness screamed USE LEOPARD AS A NEUTRAL BETCH. She is rude but she’s not wrong.

Forever 21 Plus cheetah stripe pencil skirt

I already knew I was going to go with a bold blue lip to tie in the shoes but then, oh that madness and her banshee voice—YOU HAVE A MATCHING NECKLACE BETCH OMG. I actually totes forgot. It’s been quite a while since I have featured it.

Blue glitter necklace

Finally, she was silenced. By sparkle.

Opening Ceremony blue glitter Vans

An amazing friend I met at last year’s We All Glow summit was in town to play a show with San Cha (who is liiiiiife). I was already in this outfit but thennnnnn…ok so I’m diving deep into suspenders. Mostly because I’m Single White (or Married Brown?) Female-ing Virgie Tovar. These babies came in the mail just before I was heading to the show.

Tape measure suspenders

That’s right I’M TAKING BACK MEASURING TAPE. I will no longer be oppressed by the emotional weight of inches around my waist. I will take that shit as seriously as superfluous clothing. Stay tuned for more outfits with theeeeeeeeese. I love them.

Shopping Linkies:

Blue glitter Vans | SOLD OUT! Find them on Ebay
Eye of the tiger skirt | Forever 21
Liquid Suede Lipstick in Jet Set | NYX
Bucket Boss suspenders | Amazon

 

 

Finding new challenges to up my body positive game is starting to get a little difficult. I killed crop topping, nailed fuzzy pits, and totes conquered my VBO fears. Every new challenge has left me feeling freer with more adopted options on how to show my body. The only problem now is that it feels like I’m running out of flaming hoops through which to jump.

And then keyholes came back.

Rebdolls leopard maxi dress

Photo credit: Jessica Shirley-Donnelly

That is one thing I appreciate about fashion. Some trends do force me out of my comfort zone. Low-ass keyholes made it impossible to find a bra that wouldn’t show, which led me to discover the futility of stick-on bras for D cups attached to fat women holy crap they are horribly useless.

Rebdolls leopard maxi dress

Photo credit: Jessica Shirley-Donnelly

Epiphanies happen when I see myself struggling to look a certain way. Sometimes when I question why, I find there is no good reason. However, this time there was SOME substance behind the struggle. After figuring out that I wouldn’t hate showing the natural shape of my breasts (god forbid) or even the protrusion of my nipples (gasp), one very real concern remained.

“Hi. I’m boob sweat. We’ve met.”

Rebdolls leopard maxi dress

Photo credit: Jessica Shirley-Donnelly

Luckily, I have also met Rachel at Re/Dress who introduced me to the miracle that is the Teggings cage bra. Before this shoot, I would basically use them as crop tops or as added visual interest to a top or dress, always with a bra underneath since they are not at all supportive. But by themselves, they are comfy and moisture-wicking AF.

Rebdolls leopard maxi dress

Photo credit: Jessica Shirley-Donnelly

Rebdolls leopard maxi dress

Photo credit: Jessica Shirley-Donnelly

I really liked how the cage bra peaked out of the dress in this look and the little pop of color it added. But before you go all “hey you said braless and that’s a bra meow meow meow” on me, let’s move onto the next couple of looks.

Forever 21 plus size bodysuit

Photo credit: Jessica Shirley-Donnelly

There. I am completely without a bra here, clearly because I am smiling. God, bras suck. Anyway, you can also see it is quite sunny and warm and my boobs are not crying salty tears. How did I achieve this?

Step One: Rip off three squares of TP.

Step Two: Fold them over twice.

Step Three: Stuff them under one boob.

Step Four: Repeat.

Step Five: Go about your damn life.

Step Six: Chuckle heartily when they plop onto the floor after taking your shirt off for bed and completely forgetting they existed. 

Forever 21 plus size bodysuit

Photo credit: Jessica Shirley-Donnelly

Forever 21 plus size bodysuit

Photo credit: Jessica Shirley-Donnelly

This is actually my favorite solution. I did a bit of research on how to go braless while avoiding excess sweat and the advice seemed pretty wack. Someone swore by argon oil (yeah no, at least sweat doesn’t actually stain my clothes) while others recommended spray antiperspirant. I don’t even wear that shit on my armpits because of how much it ruined my tops let alone would I trust it to not wreak havoc on the sensitive skin under my breasts. Hands down, toilet paper never fails. It stays in place, it does the job, and its cheap!

Forever 21 plus size keyhole bodysuit

Photo credit: Jessica Shirley-Donnelly

Hello nipples! I really did think the world would stop spinning if people could see my nips. And by people, I mean terrible, leering, gross men. But I quickly learned that if my ample rack in a bra doesn’t get me harassed constantly (which it doesn’t, only occasionally, which is far too often because men suck ANYHOO), neither will my nipples. It’s just not as far as a leap and I thought it would be.

Forever 21 plus size keyhole bodysuit

Photo credit: Jessica Shirley-Donnelly

Forever 21 plus size keyhole bodysuit

Photo credit: Jessica Shirley-Donnelly

I mean, I still remember the episode of Oprah where she caught her own nipples poking out from underneath her turtleneck and had an absolute shit fit, like it was the most embarrassing thing in the universe. The next week, she was talking about pasties like they paid her Weight Watchers money. It is but one parable in my personal bible of body shame. Little by little, I’m ripping that fucker up. Join me?

Forever 21 plus size keyhole bodysuit

Photo credit: Jessica Shirley-Donnelly

Shopping Linkies:

Teggings Cage Bra | Re/Dress

Floral Bodysuit | Forever 21

Ribbed Bodysuit | Forever 21

Gold Pointed Heels | ASOS

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Maybe it’s all this girl power going around combined with it being almost Halloween, but I’m just feeling some major witchy vibes lately. And when those gothic fashion urges take hold, sometimes they manifest in ghostly whites and blood-red lips.

Forever 21 plus size white lace romper

I bought this white lace romper because I thought it was so preciously 90s, not picturing my first look with it to be this sinister.

Forever 21 plus size white lace romper

What changed the tone were these incredible earrings. Oh, and the unshakable urge to play around with orange eyeliner. Yeah, that was a weird beauty craving. But I gotta say, I’ll be doing that again.

White floral earrings

The last time I was in Portland, I stopped a woman from across the room and screamed WHERE DID YOU GET THOSE EARRINGS. And guess what. She fucking made them! And because the universe provides, she has an Etsy store. Bonus: Etsy is on Ebates! That means you can get Cash Back on this very pair by joining here.

Forever 21 plus size white lace romper

There’s just something so Maleficent about them. They really would feel like they were my horns if it weren’t for their incredible lightness.

Forever 21 plus size white lace romper

Sigh. All this white lace just makes me want to get married again. It is just cruel that it’s only socially acceptable to renew your vows every 10 years DO YOU KNOW HOW MANY TIMES MY STYLE HAS CHANGED IN 10 YEARS. For one, I have bangs now. It’s kind of a big deal.

Shopping Linkies

White lace romper | Forever 21

Spine flower earrings | JulesEllingtonShop at Etsy

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Medusa’s Makeup Eyeliner Paint in Orange You Glad | Dolls Kill

Lippie Stix in Creature | ColourPop

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Scallops. It is one of those style points I have always loved but often just doesn’t fall neatly in line with my not-so-neat aesthetic. Scallops are demure, cutesy and retro–hard to mix into an edgier wardrobe. But Boohoo, oh Boohoo. You did it.

 

Boohoo pink plus size jumpsuit

While this gorgeous mauve catsuit was pretty daring on its own, I thought it could use a little hip hop inspo with these electric neon Nikes and one seriously sick chain belt. The bralette and vest (oldie but goody) I just added because strapless is a real no-no for me. I always live in fear of a wardrobe malfunction (i.e. nip slip).

Plus size gold chain belt

Can I just say how much I love Boohoo? Not only do they have frequent sales, 3.5% cash back at Ebates isn’t half bad either. If you haven’t joined Ebates yet, I don’t know what’s stopping you. They have a ton of plus size stores. All you have to do is go to Ebates.com first, search for a store, click Shop Now and shop away. Cash back will be automatically added to your account and you’ll get it quarterly in a check or through PayPal. Join with this link and you’ll get a $10 welcome bonus!

Boohoo pink plus size jumpsuit

Outfit Deets:

Irena scallop jumpsuit | Boohoo

Cozy Ultra Satin lipcolor | ColourPop

Utility vest | Eloquii (sold out, similar here)

Cage bralette | Forever 21 (sold out, similar here)

Gold layered chain belt Ready To Stare

Nike Air Force 1 Low Upstep Breathe | Villa

Gabi Fresh tribal print bikini

A Maui vacay is something I am sure everyone with kids could use, especially if it’s without your kids, which in our case it was. Before you go wanting to hit me or anything, I will make you feel a little better by telling you I threw out my back at the beginning of the third day.

I have VERY sensitive sciatica for which I go to physical therapy. I also deal with chronic pain in my shoulders which is apparently just a side effect of 30+ years of bad posture. Dealing with both of these issues (oh yeah and throw in chronic tendinitis of my left hand just for shits, which is awesome when you use a keyboard for a living) is one of the biggest reasons I really needed a getaway. But some things you just can’t get away from.

So I brought all these outfits of course because I was going to milk the shit out of this trip and that wouldn’t be complete without taking some OOTDs with a gorgeous ocean beside me. However, the above pic was the only one I got to take before a rogue wave tossed me around a little too vehemently and made my back spazz the fuck out.

Monif C. Havana bandage cut-out swimsuit

After 24 hours of rest, I saw a chiropractor who prescribed me pool time and mai tais. I readied myself to limp out of my room but I figured if I could stand, I could slay. And slay I did. I also caught some very weird tan lines.

Forever 21 plus size silver halter bikini

This was now the fifth day and shit was still not great. I was sore and kind of afraid to move but yeah ok let me climb up to this little rock wall with absolutely nothing to grab onto should I stumble so hubs can snap me in the fucking silver bikini. It’s silver! Some metallics are worth getting seriously injured for. The world of plus size swimwear needs to stop vastly improving because I now have more suits and bikinis than actual days of summer.

I still managed to have a phenomenal time on Maui. Caught a luau, got a massage, hiked in the rain, sailed into the sunset while drinking champagne, ate pie at Leoda’s AND proved to myself that I’m fuckin unstoppable. What’s to complain about?

Outfit Deets:

GabiFreshTribal Print Bikini | swimsuitsforall

Havana Bandage Swimsuit | Monif C

Silver Bikini | Forever 21 (top & bottom)