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Last year, I was lucky enough to meet so many iconic, beauty-standard crushing, plus-size women at Essie Golden’s Golden Confidence pool party in LA. When, much to my utter fucking shock, I was invited to this year’s Torrid #thesecurves pool party in Orange, CA, I couldn’t say no. There is nothing in the world like rubbing elbows with fabulous fat babes (and bro HAI TROY), some of which I have been following for years. Yet I couldn’t have prepared myself for how surreal it would actually get.

But first…my outfit.

Sequin jacket

Photo by Suma Jane Dark

Guys. Redress is the shit. This vintage cape is all I’ll ever need in life. I don’t have to pay rent. I can just live in this. I don’t need air. I can just breathe in this fabulousness.

But enough of me (actually, you’ll see me pop up a lot in photos because I’m a busy little beaver and low-key narcissist but hey). On with the recap!

Torrid #TheseCurves Pool Party at The Monaco Mansion in Orange County

(L-R) Ashley Nell Tipton, Nicole Byer, Amanda Bourne and Troy Solomon (Photo by Joe Scarnici/Getty Images for Torrid)

I actually got to touch Ashley Nell Tipton guys. Also, now I need this swim cover in my life.

Torrid #TheseCurves Pool Party at The Monaco Mansion in Orange County

(Photo by Joe Scarnici/Getty Images for Torrid)

Torrid #TheseCurves Pool Party at The Monaco Mansion in Orange County

Gabi Gregg (Photo by Joe Scarnici/Getty Images for Torrid)

Torrid #TheseCurves Pool Party at The Monaco Mansion in Orange County

Tiffany Polite (Photo by Joe Scarnici/Getty Images for Torrid)

EDIT: SHE FOUND ME AND WE’RE IN EACH OTHER’S LIVES FOREVER NOW. 😛

I don’t know who this bb is but I feel like putting out a Missed Connection ad on Craig’s List for “Long Lost BFF”.

Torrid #TheseCurves Pool Party at The Monaco Mansion in Orange County

Anna O’Brien (Photo by Joe Scarnici/Getty Images for Torrid)

OF COURSE my girl Glitter and Lazers bedazzled her shit out. Goals.

Torrid #TheseCurves Pool Party at The Monaco Mansion in Orange County

(Photo by Joe Scarnici/Getty Images for Torrid)

Torrid #TheseCurves Pool Party at The Monaco Mansion in Orange County

Jazzmyne Jay (Photo by Suma Jane Dark)

She gives even more life in person, people. My heart could barely take it.

Torrid #TheseCurves Pool Party at The Monaco Mansion in Orange County

(L-R top) Manon Edwards, Maria Gimena and Saucye West (L-R bottom) Brittany Ordaz, Oh Hi It Me, and Alysse Dalessandro. (Photo by Joe Scarnici/Getty Images for Torrid)

Torrid #TheseCurves Pool Party at The Monaco Mansion in Orange County

The glorious backside of plus model Katana Fatale and Sarah Sapora of Sarah Plus Life.  (Photo by Joe Scarnici/Getty Images for Torrid)

Torrid #TheseCurves Pool Party at The Monaco Mansion in Orange County

Simone Mariposa is as stunning as I remember her. Had the pleasure of shooting with her last year for #BeInYourSkin (Photo by Joe Scarnici/Getty Images for Torrid)

Torrid #TheseCurves Pool Party at The Monaco Mansion in Orange County

Saucye West being worshiped (rightfully so) by Suma Jane Dark and Laurel Dickman.  (Photo by Joe Scarnici/Getty Images for Torrid)

Torrid #TheseCurves Pool Party at The Monaco Mansion in Orange County

Heyyyyyyyyyy.  (Photo by Joe Scarnici/Getty Images for Torrid)

Torrid #TheseCurves Pool Party at The Monaco Mansion in Orange County

Natalie Hage and Simone Mariposa redefining that selfie game.  (Photo by Joe Scarnici/Getty Images for Torrid)

Torrid #TheseCurves Pool Party at The Monaco Mansion in Orange County

Troy Solomon and Erica Jean Schenk. I died over Troy’s fanny pack and I vow to wear mine more often goddamnit. (Photo by Joe Scarnici/Getty Images for Torrid)

Torrid #TheseCurves Pool Party at The Monaco Mansion in Orange County

Me basking in Suma’s fabulousness. (Photo by Joe Scarnici/Getty Images for Torrid)

Torrid #TheseCurves Pool Party at The Monaco Mansion in Orange County

Rhapsody Artajo and my lost BFF. I’ll fight you for her, Rhapsody! (Photo by Joe Scarnici/Getty Images for Torrid)

Torrid #TheseCurves Pool Party at The Monaco Mansion in Orange County

Laurel, Saucye, Me, Katana, Suma. (Photo by Joe Scarnici/Getty Images for Torrid)

Torrid #TheseCurves Pool Party at The Monaco Mansion in Orange County

Our special guest, Nicole Byer!  (Photo by Joe Scarnici/Getty Images for Torrid)

Torrid #TheseCurves Pool Party at The Monaco Mansion in Orange County

Manon Edwards (Chic With Curves, yes she is!) (Photo by Joe Scarnici/Getty Images for Torrid)

Torrid #TheseCurves Pool Party at The Monaco Mansion in Orange County

Torrid Model Search Winner Maria Gimena (Photo by Joe Scarnici/Getty Images for Torrid)

Torrid #TheseCurves Pool Party at The Monaco Mansion in Orange County

DJ Mamabear (Photo by Joe Scarnici/Getty Images for Torrid)

Torrid #TheseCurves Pool Party at The Monaco Mansion in Orange County

For real, Rhapsody. Come at me, bro. 😛 (Photo by Joe Scarnici/Getty Images for Torrid)

Mamafierce and Nataliemeansnice

Serving with Natalie Hage.

Mamafierce and A Beard Named Troy

I AM Troy’s pug shorts.

Torrid #TheseCurves Pool Party at The Monaco Mansion in Orange County

Alysse Dalessandro and Marcy Cruz popping in for a group shot. (Photo by Suma Jane Dark)

Troy Soloman

Get it, Troy. (Photo by Suma Jane Dark)

Alysse Dalessandro

She always fucking brings it. (Photo by Suma Jane Dark)

Saucye West

My life giver. My proof of perfection. My aspiration. My SAUCE. Ugh she’s too good. (Photo by Suma Jane Dark)

Jacqueline Whitmore

We can just end on my boo boo Jacqueline Whitmore‘s tulle dream here. Can you even? (Photo by Suma Jane Dark)

My Outfit Deets:

Sequin cape | Re/Dress (only one and I have it nya nya but keep an eye out for more vintage finds added regularly.)
Swim top | Torrid (4% Cash Back at Ebates. Join here!)
Swim bottom | Torrid
Pink faux fur sandals | Amazon

Protect those corneas, kids. I’m about to light this bitch up. Seriously, I feel like from the top up, I could easily be mistaken for an extra in the movie Hackers. Goddamn I love the 90s. Remember when Clinton played his sax on Arsenio? Good times.

Rue107 neon plus size bikini

But I digress. Here, in 2017, I’m now on family vacay in beautiful Pismo Beach with my monkey, my lil’ bear, my sister and her flock, even my mom, stepdad and grandpa. Feeling myself in the midst of all this domestic chaos was a challenge. But I packed accordingly. And if I bring day-glo on vacay, it means I’m not fucking around. This is MY me time. Damnit.

Rue107 neon plus size bikini

Did I slay you? Here’s a lifesaver. But wait…what’s this? A failed attempt to get my son a floatie for the pool (this one was wayyyyyy too big) resulting in some prop pics? Don’t mind if I do!

Rue107 neon plus size bikini

Sometimes, if you are fabulously vain and materialistic, you just can’t. fucking. even. with yourself. Like the slay is so strong you just gotta take a knee for a sec. Catch your breath. This was one of those times. Like who even is thissssssssss. Tell me.

Rue107 neon plus size bikini

It me. Floating into your IG.

Rue107 neon plus size bikini

This pool shoot was something I never even knew I had on my bucket list. When I went to the Golden Confidence pool party last year, I got some great shots but the duck…I love this duck. And now I am just realizing why I have been wearing all black since getting home from vacation. I clearly blew a color fuse. But now for something a touch more muted…

Plus size cactus print bodysuit

Remember when I hated overalls? People grow, OK. Also, they HAVE gotten cuter. Fight me right now if you think they’ve always been this lit. They have not.

Plus size cactus print bodysuit

My bodysuit obsession is still going strong. But my choker obsession is the new monster taking all my money, four bucks at a time.

Plus size denim overalls

Why even did we used to do this back in the day? I mean…why did YOU because they didn’t make overalls my size back in the day. At least not ones I could find anywhere but the army surplus. Those Ben Davis tents. Gangster.

Plus size denim overalls

Just contemplating my next painting. J/K my only talent is shopping.

Plus size cactus print bodysuit

Back to reality. It’s been real, central coast.

Shopping Linkies:

Neon bikini | Rue 107 (sold out!)
Pink pom pom choker | Forever 21 (Get 2% Cash Back at Ebates! Join here.)
Kat Von D Plan 9 lipstick | Sephora (Get 4% Cash Back at Ebates! Join here.)

Cactus bodysuit | Forever 21 (Get 2% Cash Back at Ebates! Join here.)
Denim overalls | Forever 21 (Get 2% Cash Back at Ebates! Join here.)
Clear lucite choker | Forever 21 (Get 2% Cash Back at Ebates! Join here.)

First off, you have no idea how long I just searched for a GIF or meme depicting the scene in season five of 30 Rock where Liz explains how a bathing suit makes perfectly acceptable underwear when you’re running low on laundry. That’s just plain truth. And let’s just weed out all the liars who say they have never done this. But full disclosure, I had underwear options this day and just really, REALLY wanted to wear this pizza bathing suit.

Leopard faux fur bomber jacket plus size

Lovesick plus size ripped skinny jeans

I love bodysuits, guys. I love them. I didn’t think I could love them more than crop tops but they are closing in on the lead. After all, crop tops roll up when you go hard. And ironically, I love to wear them on “go hard” occasions. The struggle.

Pizza print plus size swimsuit

What laundry day did impede on were my denim choices. I originally wanted to balance the tightness of the suit with a baggy boyfriend jean. But this pair is literally the best pair I own. Bonus 30 Rock reference, they are my Brooklyn Without Limits/Halliburton jeans. My ass will never look better in another pair and I am legit buying a few more of these before they are gone forever.

Leopard faux fur bomber jacket plus size

Oh yeah, also, is there a 12-step program for bomber addiction? This is only the third one I own but maybe the 17th I wanted. I rationalized this one because it’s fuzzy and…that’s it. Yeah. Shut up.

Leopard faux fur bomber jacket plus size

Bam. Racer back. Always a plus. And for the cherry on top, I will direct your attention to this rad dino bones necklace.

Dinosaur bones necklace in gold

Shopping Linkies:

Plus Size Faux Fur Leopard Print Bomber Jacket | Charlotte Russe (sold out, similar here)

 Orange Pattern Pizza Clip Art One Piece Swimsuit | Amazon

Dinosaur Bones Necklace | Amazon

High Rise Skinny Jeans | Lovesick

(Get Cash Back at Ebates on all Lovesick purchases! Join here for free.)

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Boohoo killing it plus size swimsuit

My husband and I are creatures of habit. Every year, we go to Pismo Beach for our anniversary, stay at the same motel, eat the same treats (Old West cinnamon rolls FTW) and leave with too many records and knick knacks from antique stores. It’s a no-frills, stress free vacay and we love it. But really my favorite part is packing my fanciest shit to remind this man why he chose this crazy bitch in the first place.

Boohoo killing it plus size swimsuit

Killin it plus size swimsuit

I’d say the letters across my belly are indeed an accurate account of how well I packed, don’t you? But also, here’s my butt:

Killin it plus size swimsuit

And this was just day one. That night, we did our usual dinner at the homey country western establishment, F. McLintocks. So I also packed my finest shit-kickers.

Southwest print dress and cowgirl boots

Actually, them’s my only shit-kickers. This combo is an oldie and a goodie and that Southwest print dress from Forever 21 has been with me many moons. I also averted a small crisis when I found I forgot my go-to berry red lipstick at home. Before a complete meltdown ensued, I remembered how fucking pigmented my Morphe eyeshadows are and mixed one with just a touch of Burt’s Bees for an instant lipstain that made me feel like a makeup miracle worker.

Red lips

But our final night at my favorite place in San Luis Obispo, The Madonna Inn, was also my favorite outfit. And a big part of that was because it was a new style, from a new brand, and I DID NOT prepare a trial run. As lazy as I say I am, I sure do love a fashion challenge. But I gotta say, I think it was lit.

Orange plus size jumpsuit

Literally. A sunset shoot perfectly captured this gorgeous GCGme jumpsuit in burnt orange. Paired with my blue boots and a major necklace, I think I managed to edge it up to my liking. That alone was my biggest challenge.

Orange plus size jumpsuit

The second biggest was getting hubs to stop freaking out about us being late for our resie and just take one more damn picture please thanks.

Plus size orange jumpsuit

Worth it. This piece continued to kill long after the sun went down.

Orange plus size jumpsuit

And that lipstick got compliments all damn night, which is pretty amazing considering where I was staying. The central coast is NOT the bay. People can be very conservative. But clearly some of them are wonderful freaks like moi.

Shopping Linkies:

Killin’ It Swimsuit | Boohoo.com

‘So Wavvy’ Ultra Satin Lip | ColourPop

Teresa Batwing Cocktail Jumpsuit | GCGme

‘Denim’ Perlees Matte Metallic Lipstick | Lime Crime

**This is a sponsored post. All opinions are my own. Please support the links that support this blog!

 

Monif C havana swimsuit in gold

Sami Drasin Photography

You would think that from being a plus size blogger, getting to know other plus size bloggers and designers, and making friends with wonderful fat femmes in the bopo movement, I wouldn’t continue to be so moved by seeing people be unapologetically fat in public as it starts to become a more normal thing.

NOPE. That shit is still magic. And it’s going to be magic for a long time because we still have so much work to do. Because every woman there had to work just a little harder to find a swim suit or bikini than their straight-size sisters. Because every woman there likely struggled with showing their bodies for YEARS and continues to have to be fearless in order to do so because you never know when a fat-shaming troll is going to crash the party. But luckily last weekend at the Golden Confidence pool party in LA, none did.

Priscilla Ono at the Golden Confidence Pool Party

Celebrity makeup artist Priscilla Ono

Sure, it was amazing to rub elbows with celebs like our host Essie Golden, Tess Holiday and her lovely partner Nick, and the flawless Priscilla Ono. And it was awesome to do so in a slammin gold swim suit. AND the feature in Cosmo was pretty great, too (OMG FUCKING COSMO). But honestly, the best part was witnessing the utter joy and liberation of blindingly fabulous women of many colors and shapes. To see the unrepresented represent. Because, honey, we brought it.

Golden Confidence pool party Los Angeles

I mean, LOOK AT THESE GODDESSES. They made me feel like Prince. It helps that I’m short and sparkly but still. To be surrounded by this kind of beauty and, yes, confidence, was the real gift. Only because we have all been told that we are not worthy of confidence at some point in our lives. Not. Today. Bitch.

BTW, I’m officially addicted to this suit. I got another one…

Monif C white havana swim suit

Monif C white havana swim suit

Monif C white havana swim suit

Monif C white havana swim suit

Monif C white havana swim suit

That makes three cut-out suits (or three opportunities for weird-ass tan lines). But this one takes the cake because I feel like Milla Jovovich in Fifth Element.

Monif C white havana swim suit

Multipass.

Outfit Deets:

Gold Havana swim suit | Monif C (sold out)

Gold jeweled head piece | La Ponce Boutique

White Havana swim suit | Monif C

gaby_fresh_bikiniHello, Year Two of Bikini Wearing. We’re taking this mermaid shit up a notch.

Now, I’ve got a thing for lime. It might be my favorite of the brights. And don’t get me wrong, EVERY SINGLE ONE of Gabi Fresh’s bikinis for SwimsuitsForAll is, in no uncertain terms, amazing and I want them all. But I just thought this kiwi wrap bikini was off the motherfucking chain. One, it’s the only wrap style of the collection and two, I’m game for the challenge of making this work.

Although I have to admit, the skimpiness of this thing had me way nervous, considering the pic below is my go-to swim look–a mix and match bikini with generous coverage:

mixmatchIt’s comfy, it stays in place and it’s still flattering while showing just a touch of skin. I can’t knock it. Plus, who doesn’t love not matching? Yet I couldn’t believe how flattering the wrap bikini turned out to be, further proving that hiding your body doesn’t really do you any favors.

OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERAI have these filthy mirrors in my backyard leftover from “the hoard” and they were doing awesome things in the light. I tried to capture it via selfie but failed. However, this little outtake captures some serious SHAPE.

lime3Goddamn. Bikinis and I will not be parting ways any time soon.

 

Torrid fatkini

So. Quite the way to say hi to y’all after another long absence. But camping trips and summer parties will be here before I know it and it was definitely time for a swim wear upgrade. Or I guess down grade since the issue was needing a smaller size.

Don’t get me wrong. Going from a size 22 to an 18 doesn’t suddenly make me feel like hot shit. It’s great but this is ultimately not the body I anticipate ending up in. So celebrating it with a fucking bikini seemed weird and premature and I literally lost count of how many times I added and removed the stupid thing to and from my online shopping cart. Honestly, this was not an easy purchase let alone photo to take AND SHARE WITH YOU ALL GOOD GOD WHAT AM I DOING.

So why? Because, hold on for this one, today…this is my body. And today is literally all any of us has. Last night I threw a fucking hissy fit when I got two pairs of pants back from alterations only to find they were taken in wayyy too much. Mark shrugs and says, “Just put them away for when you do fit into them because you eventually will.” And I go into a tirade about “I CAN’T LIVE LIKE THAT THERE ARE NO GUARANTEES I NEED CLOTHES THAT FIT ME NOW NOW NOW.” *whispers* I’m super easy to live with.

My craziness aside, I think the sentiment is quite sane. This is my body today. And if I hide or feel shame, today is wasted. Believe me, if shame did me any favors, I would have put down the fork a long time ago because I have been dealt my fair share of it. Shame will only derail everything I have worked for and all the miracles that I have allowed to happen to me by finding recovery from a cunning and baffling disease.

And plus, the obvious, I am killing it with this fucking bikini. Besides the fact that a fat woman in a bikini is such an awesome fuck you to the male-gaze-manufactured standards of beauty, for reals, I just look good. FACT.

By the way, this is a Torrid fatkini. 🙂