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Fall is finally here (sometimes even for minutes at a time) and I can’t wait to cover my life in camel and my lips in bordeaux. Most of all, I am DYING to wear velvet like every damn day. Let me kick it off with this gorgeous gold skirt. You can grab it from Fashion Nova at a discount with code MAMAFIERCE.

Going to the gym shirt

What I love about velvet is the myriad ways you can dress it up or down. I’m all about a mix of glam and punk and this piece looks killer with a graphic tee and leopard sneakers. I got this APT tee from Burger and Friends.

Plus size velvet skirt

Notice I’ve got a little bra peeking out and it is ALSO maroon. It’s all about the little deets.

Plus size velvet skirt

As I mentioned, I already have TONS of velvet but it’s just never enough yaknow? So here is my velvet wishlist for fall chock full of velvet plus size pieces you just might die over. Sorry in advance.

Velvet Bomber Jacket

Velvet Bomber Jacket

You’ve probably already heard of my obsession with Cat & Jack and how I’m thinking of hounding and harassing them into making adult plus sizes. Until then, this jacket should hold me over.

Velvet Sweatpants

Velvet Sweatpants

Sporty joggers and in that millennial pink, too? Yiss pls.

Letter Crushed Velvet Plus Size Top

Letter Crushed Velvet Plus Size Top

I confess, this is actually in the mail on its way to me rn. I wear my truth, damn it.

Plus Melissa Embroidery Detail Strappy Velvet Dress

Plus Melissa Embroidery Detail Strappy Velvet Dress

Embroidery is still my jam and I hope we still see a ton of it transition from summer to fall.

Studio Metallic Embroidered Cape

Studio Metallic Embroidered Cape

Speak of the devil. Holy shit, I need this.

Velvet Wrap Suit

Velvet Wrap Jacket With Satin Trim

Guys. Seriously guys. This suit it everything. Available in separates, of course: Jacket, Pants

Pleated Skirt

Pleated Skirt

Watch me rock this one on my Facebook live video!

Lurex Embroidered Ankle Booties

Lurex Embroidered Ankle Booties

Don’t forget that velvet is a head-to-toe affair.

Velvet Gemstone Statement Choker

Velvet Gemstone Statement Choker

Plus, it’s all about the accents.

God, there is nothing I hate more than wearing my interests and displaying them for all to see.

Psych.

Me and wearable pop-culture references go way back. After all, when plus-size fashion was even more sparse than it is now, you could always rely on finding men’s tees and pants to fit your frame. Because sexism. But luckily, Torrid is bringing me back to my fashion roots without resulting to DIY to make things a bit more femme. How cute is this tee that accurately depicts my love of breakfast food?

Eggo waffles t-shirt

Eggo waffles t-shirt

Of course, Torrid’s pop culture gear includes a lot more than waffle memorabilia. I was torn between this top and every Nirvana shirt they had. Plus, they came out with an All That tank top right after I ordered this because life is cruel. And even though I’m down with the Disney, wearing it isn’t usually my thing but respect to those who do.

Plus size patched bomber jacket

Also OMG I love this jacket. It’s a super lightweight bomber, ideal for the Bay’s wishy washy stance on wind chill. Plus, I love me some patches.

Plus size patched bomber jacket

Also, have you heard me rant on the perfect fit that is the Torrid extra short jean? Length is always a problem, but I gladly deal with it for the right fit everywhere else. Torrid has never made me compromise. They are hands-down my favorite jeans on the planet. And for less that $50 a pop, give me all of them please and thank you.

Shopping Linkies:

Eggo shirt | Torrid
Jacket | Torrid
Jeans | Torrid

 

Last year, I was lucky enough to meet so many iconic, beauty-standard crushing, plus-size women at Essie Golden’s Golden Confidence pool party in LA. When, much to my utter fucking shock, I was invited to this year’s Torrid #thesecurves pool party in Orange, CA, I couldn’t say no. There is nothing in the world like rubbing elbows with fabulous fat babes (and bro HAI TROY), some of which I have been following for years. Yet I couldn’t have prepared myself for how surreal it would actually get.

But first…my outfit.

Sequin jacket

Photo by Suma Jane Dark

Guys. Redress is the shit. This vintage cape is all I’ll ever need in life. I don’t have to pay rent. I can just live in this. I don’t need air. I can just breathe in this fabulousness.

But enough of me (actually, you’ll see me pop up a lot in photos because I’m a busy little beaver and low-key narcissist but hey). On with the recap!

Torrid #TheseCurves Pool Party at The Monaco Mansion in Orange County

(L-R) Ashley Nell Tipton, Nicole Byer, Amanda Bourne and Troy Solomon (Photo by Joe Scarnici/Getty Images for Torrid)

I actually got to touch Ashley Nell Tipton guys. Also, now I need this swim cover in my life.

Torrid #TheseCurves Pool Party at The Monaco Mansion in Orange County

(Photo by Joe Scarnici/Getty Images for Torrid)

Torrid #TheseCurves Pool Party at The Monaco Mansion in Orange County

Gabi Gregg (Photo by Joe Scarnici/Getty Images for Torrid)

Torrid #TheseCurves Pool Party at The Monaco Mansion in Orange County

Tiffany Polite (Photo by Joe Scarnici/Getty Images for Torrid)

EDIT: SHE FOUND ME AND WE’RE IN EACH OTHER’S LIVES FOREVER NOW. 😛

I don’t know who this bb is but I feel like putting out a Missed Connection ad on Craig’s List for “Long Lost BFF”.

Torrid #TheseCurves Pool Party at The Monaco Mansion in Orange County

Anna O’Brien (Photo by Joe Scarnici/Getty Images for Torrid)

OF COURSE my girl Glitter and Lazers bedazzled her shit out. Goals.

Torrid #TheseCurves Pool Party at The Monaco Mansion in Orange County

(Photo by Joe Scarnici/Getty Images for Torrid)

Torrid #TheseCurves Pool Party at The Monaco Mansion in Orange County

Jazzmyne Jay (Photo by Suma Jane Dark)

She gives even more life in person, people. My heart could barely take it.

Torrid #TheseCurves Pool Party at The Monaco Mansion in Orange County

(L-R top) Manon Edwards, Maria Gimena and Saucye West (L-R bottom) Brittany Ordaz, Oh Hi It Me, and Alysse Dalessandro. (Photo by Joe Scarnici/Getty Images for Torrid)

Torrid #TheseCurves Pool Party at The Monaco Mansion in Orange County

The glorious backside of plus model Katana Fatale and Sarah Sapora of Sarah Plus Life.  (Photo by Joe Scarnici/Getty Images for Torrid)

Torrid #TheseCurves Pool Party at The Monaco Mansion in Orange County

Simone Mariposa is as stunning as I remember her. Had the pleasure of shooting with her last year for #BeInYourSkin (Photo by Joe Scarnici/Getty Images for Torrid)

Torrid #TheseCurves Pool Party at The Monaco Mansion in Orange County

Saucye West being worshiped (rightfully so) by Suma Jane Dark and Laurel Dickman.  (Photo by Joe Scarnici/Getty Images for Torrid)

Torrid #TheseCurves Pool Party at The Monaco Mansion in Orange County

Heyyyyyyyyyy.  (Photo by Joe Scarnici/Getty Images for Torrid)

Torrid #TheseCurves Pool Party at The Monaco Mansion in Orange County

Natalie Hage and Simone Mariposa redefining that selfie game.  (Photo by Joe Scarnici/Getty Images for Torrid)

Torrid #TheseCurves Pool Party at The Monaco Mansion in Orange County

Troy Solomon and Erica Jean Schenk. I died over Troy’s fanny pack and I vow to wear mine more often goddamnit. (Photo by Joe Scarnici/Getty Images for Torrid)

Torrid #TheseCurves Pool Party at The Monaco Mansion in Orange County

Me basking in Suma’s fabulousness. (Photo by Joe Scarnici/Getty Images for Torrid)

Torrid #TheseCurves Pool Party at The Monaco Mansion in Orange County

Rhapsody Artajo and my lost BFF. I’ll fight you for her, Rhapsody! (Photo by Joe Scarnici/Getty Images for Torrid)

Torrid #TheseCurves Pool Party at The Monaco Mansion in Orange County

Laurel, Saucye, Me, Katana, Suma. (Photo by Joe Scarnici/Getty Images for Torrid)

Torrid #TheseCurves Pool Party at The Monaco Mansion in Orange County

Our special guest, Nicole Byer!  (Photo by Joe Scarnici/Getty Images for Torrid)

Torrid #TheseCurves Pool Party at The Monaco Mansion in Orange County

Manon Edwards (Chic With Curves, yes she is!) (Photo by Joe Scarnici/Getty Images for Torrid)

Torrid #TheseCurves Pool Party at The Monaco Mansion in Orange County

Torrid Model Search Winner Maria Gimena (Photo by Joe Scarnici/Getty Images for Torrid)

Torrid #TheseCurves Pool Party at The Monaco Mansion in Orange County

DJ Mamabear (Photo by Joe Scarnici/Getty Images for Torrid)

Torrid #TheseCurves Pool Party at The Monaco Mansion in Orange County

For real, Rhapsody. Come at me, bro. 😛 (Photo by Joe Scarnici/Getty Images for Torrid)

Mamafierce and Nataliemeansnice

Serving with Natalie Hage.

Mamafierce and A Beard Named Troy

I AM Troy’s pug shorts.

Torrid #TheseCurves Pool Party at The Monaco Mansion in Orange County

Alysse Dalessandro and Marcy Cruz popping in for a group shot. (Photo by Suma Jane Dark)

Troy Soloman

Get it, Troy. (Photo by Suma Jane Dark)

Alysse Dalessandro

She always fucking brings it. (Photo by Suma Jane Dark)

Saucye West

My life giver. My proof of perfection. My aspiration. My SAUCE. Ugh she’s too good. (Photo by Suma Jane Dark)

Jacqueline Whitmore

We can just end on my boo boo Jacqueline Whitmore‘s tulle dream here. Can you even? (Photo by Suma Jane Dark)

My Outfit Deets:

Sequin cape | Re/Dress (only one and I have it nya nya but keep an eye out for more vintage finds added regularly.)
Swim top | Torrid (4% Cash Back at Ebates. Join here!)
Swim bottom | Torrid
Pink faux fur sandals | Amazon

Do you remember the first time you tried to take back the word “fat”? Mine was in junior high. I figured because everybody already treated me differently, they obviously knew I was fat (DAMN IT, BUT HOW?!) and I probably looked foolish trying to pretend I wasn’t. I figured it was a way to save face. But suddenly I was depressed and insecure and cause for so much misguided sympathy from my friends, who begged me not to “talk shit” about myself.

Sigh. This is how I thought it would always be. For one, I was also fatphobic as fuck and wouldn’t be caught dead paling around with another fat girl for fear of being a collectively bigger target. That meant there was no possible way I could have learned how wrong I was back then, in my thin bubble. I wasn’t a good ally. I had no good allies. I didn’t know it could be any other way.

Girl Gang mesh t-shirt

It me. Gang of one.

Girl Gang mesh t-shirt

Taking back “fat” is still hard. People still don’t understand it. They take it as admitting defeat. As a resignation. But that only works if you think my body is a failure, which I fucking don’t. I am free in this body. I am reminded just how free by watching other fat babes live their lives unapologetically and by gathering with them to take up some well-deserved space.

Girl Gang mesh t-shirt

Girl Gang mesh t-shirtThat’s what #fatandfree means to me. Plus Model, goddess, mermaid, HBIC, Supermom Saucye West started the hashtag on Instagram and rounded up around 30 plus-size princesses for a photoshoot with bopo photographer Suma Jane Dark. I’m warning you right now, things are about to get legit too magical up in this piece.

#fatandfree plus model Saucey West

Clockwise from top left: Plus Model Saucye West, Me, Club Bodice‘s Shawna Berry Davis, The Just Chamia Show‘s Chamia LaRae, Yoga Teacher Victoria Russell

#fatandfree plus model Saucye West

Black leather cropped jacket

Black leather cropped jacket

Having community with fellow fat women can still be a scary thing, particularly in public. If you have it relatively easy like I do in terms of being the victim of fat phobia, nothing will remind you that people want us to disappear like strutting your stuff in a fat pack. People react. It’s here, it’s real, and we still have work to do. But this day, this was a safe space. This was a celebration. I mean, any chance to take my top off is always a celebration but, you know.

Brace yourself for the moment that gave me the most life:

#fatandfree plus model Saucye West

From left to right: Chamia LaRae, Saucye West, The Body is Not an Apology‘s Denise Jolly

This was right before they started twerking. *fans self*

Torrid extra short acid wash jeans

Torrid extra short acid wash jeans

This is why every fat woman needs a fat squad, a topic on which I will be writing more in depth for Ravishly later this month. We can’t have liberation alone. Another reason–NO ONE laughs like fat women. Fight me.

Torrid extra short acid wash jeans

Special, SPECIAL shouts to Laurel Dickman who was instrumental in putting this all together. <3